At resilience workshops, we talk about something called balance. It's that bio-psycho-social-personal balance we need to stay well. There are four building blocks that we say are needed to maintain ‘balance’:
Physical - there's a lot of research that shows that the food you eat will impact your mood. Exercise is a great positive coping strategy. We need things like sunshine and clean water, because if our physical isn't ok, we’re not going to feel good within ourselves.
Social - so who is it that you're spending time with? Are you taking on board stuff that actually belongs to other people? It's about those social boundaries. We do have a choice as to who we spend time with. And if you're going to just give, give, give to others, and you can't say no, that's going to have an impact on you.
Psychological - we know that our thoughts determine our feelings. What's your mind doing? Is it in the future, is it in the past, or is it in the present - which of course is where your control and power is.
And finally, Personal - this is the relationship I have with myself. When I look in the mirror what is it that I see? Do I see someone who has everything going for them, who can achieve whatever it is they set out to achieve, or do I see someone who is ugly and someone to beat up on all the time.
Each one of the four areas is important on its own and the way it works with the other three. All it takes is for one to be out of balance for us to feel unwell, whether mentally or physically.